Society has this image:
- Graduate from high school (18)
- Move away for college
- Study hard
- Find "The One"
- Graduate
- Find a job
- Get engaged/married
- Buy a house
- Start a family (sooooo by the time you're 26??)
Well, I'm not exactly 26, but I HAVE completed 4 of the 9 things. But the clock is ticking...
I have every right to feel behind because of society's "expectations" and it's not any fun. Society is making me feel empty and is draining me of my "belonging."
There's a quote about college that I know of and this part of it (off the top of my head):
You have "four years" here to goof off, be irresponsible, date, spend money that you may or may not have, stay up all night and become someone you never knew you could be or had the ability to become.
It's Vegas without the slot machines.
(HA. Did I really just say that? *laughs to self* That's the first time that's ever come to mind.)
This image I have in my head is starting to bug me and I'm losing sleep over it. Quite literally.
I'm at this point in life where everything is competitive though...and I feel that the world is way too competitive. Here's a question for you:
Are you a robot? Is your best friend a robot? Is your boss a robot? How about your co-workers?
We are choosing to live like robots. Yet we've been giving the ability to become anything we want. I like social media. Don't get me wrong. Gosh, I enjoy talking to people a lot. I'm one of those people never wants the night to end, usually. But I think that we sometimes need to treat each other like the human beings we know we are, not always demand.
My main problem? Not all companies are hiring, even though there's always "demand" for 'this or that.' It's far and few in between when it comes to call backs. So, I'm supposed to take whatever I can get, right? Right. *paused* Wait...what if my dream job is currently not available because of the economy, even though there will always be demand in this world? Do I make it happen by my own free will? I just personally feel very stuck. I'm graduating and society is making me feel as if I'm drowning into nothing. Yet, I asked for none of this.
I know I'm not perfect, but I promise, I'm worth it.
Society has had many things wrong for a long time. Wasn't so long go that society said women couldn't vote; or black people couldn't share the same diner as white people.
ReplyDeleteIn some parts of the world, society declares that women should walk 20 yards behind their men. They frown on same sex relationships.
So, really, what does society know?
Life is short. Grab it; enjoy it; live it; love it; make it yours.
Society will always be here with its faults and foibles, but you burn for a very short time. Burn the path you want to be remembered for.
And yes, make your own work destiny. No-one hiring? Be the person they HAVE to hire. Branch out and offer contract services. Show them what you can do and how well you can do it.
Even those companies that aren't hiring full-time employees are often hiring contractors. Make yourself the one they can't afford to be without.
GREAT comments, Danny. I so agree. Sometimes we have to just create opportunity for ourselves instead of searching for it ...or waiting for it to fall in our laps.
ReplyDeleteI'd be living in a tent on the side of the road with my kids if I didn't plug away every day.
Keep at it Rachel. You're a smart young lady. Life is so full of opportunity but no one is going to throw it your way....chase whatever it is you want to do. Even if you change your mind 20x.
Curious - which of the four have you done so far?
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